Here Are My Top 3 Relationship Tips
Ed and I are planning to celebrate this. We usually attend the Maker Faire, which is held in Atlanta. However, events conspired this time to keep us closer to home.
It’s fine — our anniversary isn’t about the trip, but the time spent together.
That was revolting. Ed and I have been known to be the couple accidentally.
Copper, wool, or desk sets are the most common modern and traditional gifts. But, I wonder, when was a desk set considered romantic? Instead, we will frame this as our Lucky Number 7 Anniversary, and even though we won’t be going to Vegas, we may buy some lottery tickets.
We won’t spend much time thinking about the things that make our relationship work because we already know them. Since we began dating nine years ago, the basic principles of our relationship haven’t really changed. That seems like a very long time when you think about it. Now, I’ll tell you what we believe are the three most important things to have a successful relationship. We try to improve on them constantly.
These things, I believe, are applicable to all types of relationships.
1. It is important to enjoy each other’s company.
We love to hang out with other people. We enjoy spending time with others, individually and together. Ed and I still have a great time, even when we are just driving around town giving each other a good scolding.
Not just all the inside jokes and laughter. Not only do our interests overlap. When he wants me to be interested in the predecimalization of British coinage or the miniatures he has just painted, it’s because he is. When I talk about color theory or Dr. Martens, he is interested enough to ask me if the 27th pair I have pointed out comes in the correct color.
2. No one is kidding when they say that communication is difficult.
Ed and I do not fight. We have difficult discussions whenever something needs to be discussed. It’s not always fun, but it ensures that nothing is left unresolved. Relationship best practices include addressing all issues quickly. I believe that the stuff you don’t manage will make you miserable.
Of course, there are limits. We won’t talk about difficult topics until both of us are fed. There’s no reason to divorce when an apple could have made the situation better. It’s also important to give your partner some space if you find it difficult to discuss something.
We love to chat in the car. So we are both present. We can also arrive at a destination and be done talking for a while.
3. Do not compare your relationship with anyone else.
Playing keep-up by imposing a bunch of “shoulds” will only make your relationship and life more difficult. Do not use the couples in your life as a guide to where you should be. Every couple is unique, so every relationship will also be different.
There are many ways to have a “successful relationship” — choose something tight for you and your partner, regardless of what other couples do.
Remember that your partner does not have to be romantically interested in you. Communication is just as important for couples as it is for long-term roommates.
