Deal Breakers In A Relationship

You have to decide if you are the right person for you before you can define your relationship or commit to each other. There are certain automatic deal-breakers we all know about (and some that we may not even be aware of until we meet them). There are universal deal-breakers that we all share, even if our lists of “must haves” and “can’t haves” differ.

Your partner doesn’t want the same things as you

You and your partner must have the same vision for the future. If you are looking to move to the country, but your partner thrives in the city, this can be a relationship deal breaker. If unequal desires are important to one partner but not the other, then there will be conflict as couples try to balance them. Randi Gunter, Ph…, a marriage counselor and clinical psychologist, says that resentment and disappointment can build over time if couples ignore their importance.

If you can’t compromise on your hopes and dreams, it’s best to move on.

Your partner abuses you

Abuse is a relationship killer. It would be best if you never tolerated abusive behavior or treatment in a relationship, whether it is physical, emotional, verbal, or any other type. Your connection should end immediately if your partner has hurt or hurt you. This could be through violence or using their words. Your partner should be your biggest supporter and best friend, not someone to fear.

You always fight with each other

It is normal for a couple to disagree and argue from time to time. If you and your partner are constantly arguing and screaming at each other in a contentious relationship, it could lead to a breakup. It’s not likely that you and your partner will always agree, but it is important to be able to communicate and work out any disagreements productively and healthily. Your bond will become stronger when you are able to work together and overcome these obstacles. If you are constantly angry and frustrated with your partner, it may be time to end the relationship.

You don’t trust your partner

You and your partner must trust each other completely if you want to have a lasting relationship. If you and your partner lack trust, it will lead to a relationship that is difficult, painful, frustrating, and ultimately unsatisfying. This is according to relationship experts Charlie Bloom, M.S.W., and Linda Bloom, LCSW. You will never be able to feel secure and happy in your relationship if you are constantly worried that your partner might cheat you. If you are unable to trust your partner and you find yourself trying to determine whether they are being honest, then this relationship may not be for you.

You are not your authentic self

When you are with your partner, do you play a part? Do you tell your partner the truth or only what you believe they will want to hear? You should find a new relationship if you are censoring your thoughts and holding back your interests in your relationship. You should love and be loved by your partner, not just the version you think they’d like.

You Are Not Appreciated

For a relationship that will last, both partners must feel important. If your partner doesn’t appreciate or show gratitude for all you do and does not make an effort to put you first in their lives, then this is a deal breaker. You deserve to have a partner who cares deeply about your well-being and values all you can offer.

Your partner has a history of cheating

For a relationship to be successful, trust is essential. If you find that your significant other is cheating, it means that they have different interests than you. It’s unlikely that this will improve as you both spend more time together. Avoid the drama, and find someone who is devoted to you.

Your partner has a different stance on children

It may take a while to get this one right. Early on in a relationship, marriage, and children are not likely to dominate the conversation. As you become closer, you’ll begin to think about the big picture, such as having kids. You may both be hesitant to have children at first. This can change as you share your views on marriage and having a family. Sometimes, one partner is not interested in having children, and the other partner is. If you think you have found your soulmate, it can be especially heartbreaking. Consider talking to a couple’s counselor about the underlying issues that may be causing you these feelings. Your partner’s attitude towards having children may make you want to end your relationship.

You won’t be introduced to your partner’s friends and family

This may not be a problem at first, but as the relationship develops, you should invite your partner to meet with their inner circle. Maybe they are shy or reserved. Or perhaps they have been in multiple serious relationships, and they feel apprehensive to introduce the next person that they meet to friends and family. You may need to have a serious talk with your partner if you think that they are hiding you from their family and friends. Your partner might have long-standing differences with their family or divorced parents, which can make things more complicated. If your partner keeps you away from them for no apparent reason, you may want to find someone else who will include you in all aspects of their lives.

Your partner makes you feel unvalued

Human nature is to appreciate and value others, especially in healthy relationships. Why should you love your partner if they don’t make it special to you? Relationships can become routine with less spontaneity. You should never feel undervalued by your partner. It may be time for you to re-evaluate your relationship if they don’t plan spontaneous date nights or show that they value you. It doesn’t matter if your feelings for each other have changed or if your partner is going through a difficult time. It would be best if you sat down to discuss your future needs.

You Don’t Have a Physical Connection

A successful relationship is made up of many elements, one being the initial physical attraction. Initial attraction can be based solely on looks, whether you are swiping on a dating site or meeting someone in a bar. A strong emotional and intellectual connection should be accompanied by a physical bond for a balanced relationship. There are many reasons why the spark may have disappeared. Maybe you’re not spending enough time with each other, or the attraction is gone. Counseling can be very helpful, but your gut instincts are also a good indicator.