Car journeys with a deaf child
We were really struck by how difficult holidays can be. We were able to reflect on how we have been celebrating and find ways to make it more accessible for our little boy. You might also be thinking about Easter!
We all find it difficult to be out of our routine. We find it helpful to tell Benji about our plans in advance. For example, a few days before the term ends, we let him know that the nursery will be closed over the holidays. We used to use photos of places or activities before we started using BSL. For example, I would take a picture of my parents’ house, of the woods where we love to walk, or of other people and family members we may see.
We try to make it up during the holidays to see my side of the family, who lives a few miles away in the Scottish Highlands. We need to be prepared for a long trip. We did not overdo the car preparation, but we made some changes to make it more accessible to Benji.
We have a policy of signing in the car. All conversations must be signed or both signed and spoken. Since neither my husband nor I have mastered efficient sign language and driving, this allows anyone to participate! This is not always easy for us as we are BSL learners and not fluent users. However, it is important because Benji is able to take a nap in the car without his hearing aids. ).
Second, we download some episodes of shows that both our sons will enjoy. We didn’t have screens in the car when it was only our eldest son, as we preferred to give him some time alone. However, having them both share a program for part of the trip helps them communicate and bond. Finding something they both enjoy can be difficult. Shaun the Sheep (both Netflix) and Booba are both great for the kids. The shows have no educational value, but I can’t describe how valuable it is to share laughter with others at the absurdity of these visual programs. Imagine Tom and Jerry-style humor but with visual communication instead of spoken language.
We’ve changed the way we take breaks. It’s probably so insignificant that most people don’t even notice it. But we realized we weren’t doing it, and it was causing Benji unnecessary stress. We try to make it clear what is happening, when, and for how much time. It wasn’t until I had a child who was deaf that I realized the impact of missing out on incidental learning because you can’t hear. It is important to communicate clearly with him and his brother.
Some changes can make a journey less stressful, but other times, they can cause chaos. These tips have helped us, and I hope they will help you, too. ).
